Thinking about how interesting you are to someone you like, is not only peculiar to sixteen-year-olds.
Loneliness is not forever, sooner or later an object appears in sight that awakens feelings. The signs of emotional euphoria that comes into the body together with love – butterflies in the stomach, dreaminess, a sense of happiness in the style of light sparkling intoxication. But I wonder if it happens only with you or with him too?
There are several simple and obvious acceptances that clearly define his interest: he flirts with you, looking for meetings, inadvertently invites you for coffee, etc. And if everything is not so clear? How do you know what your chances are?
We reveal 3 signals that will help distinguish the sincerity of feelings from random coincidences.
1. It repeats your intonation
That’s because he likes them. We are all endowed with a craving for imitation, which is activated under the power of someone else’s charm, prompting us to copy words and intonations. Scientists explain this by a theory whose basic attitude is that we unintentionally change the way we speak and gesture to match the tone and vibrations of our interlocutor – especially someone we care about. Most likely, you do not fit, he has already managed to take something from your repertoire.
2. He changes in your presence
How exactly? Again, in the manner of speaking and behavior in general – trying to be cool, smart or just the soul of the company. Psychologists confirm that people purposefully change speech and behavior patterns, trying to seem brighter, more interesting and more desirable to those who like. This approach is based on the principle of deficiency, prompting the advertising of personal virtues – if someone, for example, has a rare quality, it makes it more desirable. And if the object of observation tries to pay attention to their trumps, it means that he wants you to notice how unique it is.
3. He repeats what you’re doing
This, in scientific terms, is a non-verbal trend that is activated both consciously and unconsciously, depending on the abilities. As in the case of communicative adaptation, by “reflecting” the interlocutor, we wish to support him/her through actions and gestures, but not by copying or imitating, but by entering into a kind of dumb dialogue. The movements of the person we like do not go unanswered, embodied in complimentary behavior: you get up from the chair, he puts his foot on the leg, you fold your hair, he clears his throat.